 Intimacy issues don't just appear overnight. Many times, there are various things transpiring in a relationship to get to this point. Here are a few reasons couples are facing intimacy issues:
1. Lack of Communication One thing I see often with couples is wanting their partner to just know and/or understand them without discussing what they need. I get it, you love each other, you share a last name, you share children, you see each other day in and day out, you've been through so much together. Your partner should just know right? Wrong. Express yourself. If there is something between you and your partner you think is an issue or you don't like, don't just walk around with an attitude, schedule some time with one another to discuss your thoughts. It's unfair to you and your partner when you don't speak up. 2. Depression, Anxiety, and/or Other Mental Illnesses If you have ever personally experienced any of these things, then you know it can rear it's ugly head at any given moment. It can also affect our perception of certain issues. This is why it's imperative to be able to talk with a mental health professional to discover the root of any mental health concerns. Sometimes we can be "taking things out" on our partner or holding them accountable for things they have nothing to do with or have control over. Work on tackling those deeper issues so that your intimacy doesn't take a huge hit because of unresolved issues. 3. Resentment, Anger, and/or Mistrust I see this a LOT in relationships. Whether it's one partner who comes and goes as they please without taking into consideration of the other partner's feelings to even infidelity, when these issues have yet to be resolved, resentment, anger and/or mistrust takes a front row seat and intimacy drifts away. 4. Having Children Obviously, children are a result of physical intimacy and sometimes emotional intimacy as well, but they also require a lot of time, attention, energy, and planning. As much as I love the kids, lol they can also be a mood kill due to the many things they require. 5. Other Commitments/Obligations Let's face it. Most people don't live on a secluded island with their partner 24/7, so you will have other commitments that you should probably honor. With that being said, if intimacy with your partner is not prioritized, well then it will eventually disappear. Do any of these issues resonate with you? Do you consistently feel like intimacy is lost in your relationship or marriage? Are you struggling with how to restore that intimacy? What are your thoughts? Be sure to check out The Ultimate 5-Day Intimacy Challenge.
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Anita Mgoduka
1/16/2023 10:58:03 am
Good evening Angie. Almost all the above mentioned issues I resonate with but more especially number 3 and it all started with him impregnating someone and I then cheated and he impregnated a second lady then me I then ended the relationship for my sanity and obviously the for my unborn child. He then apologised and asked me if we can try again I eventually aggred because I still loved the guy but I never forgot or got over what happed before because we never talked as he refuses to talk to me we just move on from stuff. Caught him cheating again and don't think his sorry about what happened as he just kept quiet and when he talked he told me "I still think about what you did and I don't trust you as I only trust once" those were his exact words . It's very hard for me because we've been dating for 8 years and I have been fully committed to the relationship and him and I even though we were in a long distance relationship and honestly i do know what to do as communication is an issue because he refuses to open up, just shuts me down and cheats and blames me for it.
Hi Anita. I'm so sorry to hear about what has transpired thus far in your relationship. It sounds like you've been through a LOT but even with what you've been through, it sounds like you've attempted to make your relationship work. But it also sounds like you don't feel like your partner is returning the same effort as it pertains to being vulnerable and attempting to trust YOU again even though you both have been unfaithful. Leave a Reply. |
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